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Taking everything personally

Do you take everything personally? This habit causes so many problems in your life. It brings anger and anxiety. It makes you believe that the world is against you. But the truth is most of the things have nothing to do with you. If someone cuts you in traffic or if a stranger slammed the door on your face, well it’s not about you. It’s about them. We’re so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we make everything about ourselves. If something happens, we assume that we are the root cause of that problem. But most people have already preoccupied with their own thoughts and you are probably the last person in their mind. They might honk at you because they had a bad day, not because you are driving too slow. It only feels personal because you made it personal.

Trying to control everything

If someone tries to control you and put their nose in your business every time, how’d that make you feel? Not good I presume. You want that other people don’t interfere in your life but you do the same thing. You try to control people, you try to influence their decisions, you try to manipulate other people using guilt and shame. You get involved in their relationships. You think that you are helping others but the truth is you might be doing more damage than help. For starters, you are hurting your relationship, you are manipulating the people that you care about.

You are also hurting the relationship you have with yourself. You are so concentrated on other people’s problems that you forget about your own problems. So leave that habit ASAP. Leave other people's problems to themselves. If someone comes to you for your advice, that's a different thing, you should surely help. But don't be a puppet master, let them make their decisions on their own.

Comparing yourself to other people

You go out for a walk or in the gym, and you see an attractive dude and you blindly think that their life must be easier. Now the problem here is, you are undermining their success and making excuses for your failures. You are thinking that just because they have something which you don’t, make them successful which is totally wrong. Another thing is because you don’t have one single trait, you are ignoring the other traits that you have. You might have a great sense of humor, or a great dressing style, yes you might not be that much good-looking as that other guy but so what? You are a combination of so many other qualities. What if they are just good-looking and they lack a good sexy brain like yours? Cut yourself some slack and don’t compare yourself blindly.

Day  Dreaming

Dreams are important. They keep you motivated to work towards your goal. But, if you only dream about the outcome, you spend so much time dreaming that you don’t actually work on achieving it. So many people make this mistake. Every dream requires strategy, hard work, and passion. If you don’t have the passion to follow through, then dream about something else. Dream about something you want to achieve and then make that dream a reality.

Breaking bank

How often do you buy things you don’t need? Compulsive shopping is one of the most common bad habits. People usually buy things they don’t need, with the money they did not earn, to impress the people who don’t care about them. When you buy something exciting, it gives you pleasure for some days then the pleasure just goes away and you crave more things- bigger and better. Do shopping as a reward of your hard work. It’s okay to treat yourself every once in a while, but make sure you are not shopping for the sack of just shopping.